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The problem with “should” (especially if you have ADHD)

Published 5 months ago • 1 min read

How many times today have you told yourself you should be doing something?

“I should answer that email.”
“I should clean the kitchen.”
“I should be more productive, organized, on top of my life, [insert unrealistic expectation here]...”

Yeah. Been there. Like, yesterday.

And also 10 minutes ago.

And as I was writing this sentence.

Here’s the thing no one tells you:

For ADHD brains, “should” isn’t just unhelpful — it’s often just bullshit. It comes loaded with guilt, pressure, and the idea that we’re somehow failing at being adults just because we don’t operate like neurotypical people (or robots).

That’s why this week’s episode of ADHD Adult(ish) is all about kicking “should” to the curb.

🎧 In Stop 'Should-ing' Yourself: Why ADHD and 'Should' Don’t Mix, we’ll dive into:

  • Why “should” statements mess with our motivation and self-worth
  • How to question the “shoulds” and replace them with something way more empowering
  • A few “shoulds” that are actually kind and worth keeping (yes, they exist!)

🎙️Listen now or watch it on Youtube.

Quick reminder before I sign off:

You don’t need to earn rest.
You don’t need to do things the “normal” way.
You definitely don’t need another “should” on your plate.

You're already doing better than you think.

Cheers,
​Kim

P.S. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can help you untangle ADHD brain chaos and build habits and systems that actually work:

  1. Download the Quick Wins Playbook: This free, ADHD-friendly guide to help you boost confidence and get unstuck with small, manageable wins that actually work for your brain. Click here to download it.
  2. Get Community Support: Join the waitlist for my soon-to-be opening online community for adults with ADHD — Click here.​
  3. Work With Me Privately: I offer 1:1 coaching for more personalized support to reach your goals. Click here to schedule a free discovery call.
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